Pre-Marital And Marital Counselling In Pretoria
Couples often struggle in relationships with communication, meeting each other’s needs and communicating expectations effectively. As couples decide to spend their lives together, they also migrate from being very attached to the early romantic stage of the relationship to having the desire to grow as individuals in later stages of the relationship.
Family tension, divorce, affairs and other life stressors often put individuals and the relationship itself under tremendous pressure. Professional help enables couples and/or individuals to engage in self-exploration and to make informed decisions about their relationships.
Marriage is a very exciting and challenging journey all at once. Very few relationships give us the opportunity for personal growth such as the marital dyad. Apart from personality and personal beliefs and expectations, it is important to understand as much as possible about your own family system and the family system of your spouse-to-be in order to have more insight before your exchange the vows. This process is best facilitated by a qualified marriage and family therapist who received training in family system theory. I also use a professional program designed and scored in the USA for pre-marital couples to prepare them for their big day and beyond.
I believe marriage is the cornerstone of the family. If the parents function well in the marital relationship chances are really good that the children will also benefit greatly. But marriage is not just about having children, it is also about the exciting journey of self and other-discovery in the most intimate way known to humankind. This emotional and spiritual “nakedness” can often challenge couples to the point of giving up. Those who work through their problems successfully are often much happier than simply taking personal problems into the next relationship. Couples therapy entails a whole lot more than “communication skills” training or advice-giving and it is important to find a helper who is trained specifically for this kind of therapy. Note that for couple therapy to be successful it takes a commitment to the counselling process and not just one or two sessions.