Commitment is a big fear for a lot of men, and a HUGE frustration for a lot of women. Women can’t stand when men don’t commit, and they also can’t understand.
Men will give many reasons for not being able to commit.
I Need My Space
A lot of guys will just tell their lady that they need some space. So what does this really mean? Well, when you were a young girl, you probably dreamed of the day you’d meet a man that you would fall in love with and get married and have a family. For men, we just think about sex. A deep relationship is much more than we ever imagined, and most of the time we may not be ready. So we just need a little space to make sure we’re ok with where we’re at.
We Should See Other People: Ladies, do I really have to tell you that if you hear this one, RUN. It’s over. What a man is doing here is trying to keep you close, in case he needs to score a quickie on a drunken night.
I Like You Too Much
This is a sneaky tactic men use to try to make you feel good. I know, it sounds weird, but we’re not the brightest species on Earth. When a guy says this to you, he’ s got someone else in mind that he wants to have sex with, but he just hasn’t quite closed the deal because you’re around too much. Don’t give this guy his space. He’s just trying to sleep with someone else and then come back to you. That ain’t cool!
He Doesn’t Want You To Meet His Parents
This could mean 2 things. First, if he’s not too close with his parents, it could mean he doesn’t want them to scare you off, or, he’s just plain protecting you from them because they aren’t the best people. In the other scenario, if he seems to have a great relationship with his mom and dad, he’s probably ashamed of you, and that’s why he doesn’t want you to meet them.
I could go on and on about reasons men give to not commit. In many cases, they really may not want to be with you. But in others, they probably really do love you and care about you. So why don’t these guys commit?
They are SCARED!
You may not understand this, but it’s true. Women see marriage as a step in the relationship process. Men see it as an end. And the end of anything can be a lot to deal with.
Isn’t it ok to be scared?
You can overcome this by talking about your relationship with your man. Ask why he won’t commit? Find out the real reason. If you can talk about this and get through it, you’ll make it just fine.
Has a man ever told you that he can’t or won’t commit? What reason were you given? How did it work out in the end? I’d love to hear from you. Just leave a comment below!